The KVR1333D3N9H/4G (1333HHz) has proven to be stable as well. It just seems to be an issue with the newer KVR16N11H/4 (1600 MHz) and only when all 4 DIMM slots are filled.
Spec sheet for the incompatible RAM: http://www.kingston.com/datasheets/KVR16N11H_4.pdf
Supported memory configurations for the board: http://www.intel.com/support/motherboards/desktop/db-dh87mc/sb/CS-034214.htm
Do these look compatible? I can't see a problem.